What is Motivation?
Motivation is a motivating force, stimulus, or influence, according to Merriam Webster Dictionary. It is a reason to begin one’s actions. A general desire and willingness to do something (as per Google Dictionary).
What drives you and keeps you going in life?
Personally, one of the things that give me the most strength lately is my girlfriend, my so-called “partner in crime”. I truly believe she is the one. I refused to settle, and eventually the universe gave me an unexpected gift – her. Maybe it sounds cheesy, but she does motivate me to be and do better and brings the best in me.
Aside from that, I have always had this urge and drive to be successful. My dreams have always been big. As Grant Cardone simply put it, “Don’t be afraid to dream! Dream BIG, so that you can achieve BIG.” Some people just want to just have enough to be comfortable… To me, this is settling. May aim is to dominate my field, be the best and make the most positive impact than anyone. I want everyone across the globe to know my name and associate it with helping people to grow, have fun and be happy.
However, all these things cannot happen unless I put in a huge level of effort. Therefore, I keep going and trying and will not give up. One of my favorite interviews by Will Smith really sums it up, “I’m not afraid to die on a treadmill. I will not be outworked. Period. You might have more talent than me, <…> be smarter than me, <…> be sexier than me. But if we get on a treadmill together there’s two things that’ll happen. You are going to get off first or I’m going to die. It’s really that simple. I’m not going to be outworked.” Even when I reach my goals, the journey to success will continue.
How to Motivate Others and Stay Motivated Yourself?
How to motivate others to follow their dreams? To me, motivation is closely linked to communication. Through the effective communication, I find out what drives the person, what makes them feel happy and fulfilled. Then use that to ignite the person’s desire to act.
However, some, even after figuring out what they want, still do not “pull the trigger” and take actions necessary to achieve their dreams. They continue complaining about not being satisfied with their life, feeling unfulfilled, unhappy, unappreciated, etc. Or they complain about the government, their family, the past, lack of opportunities, and so on. In that case, I usually say “You can bring a horse to water, but you can’t force it to drink”. Which means that we cannot “save” (read “motivate”) everybody.
Do you feel like what I have described above sounds familiar? Are you, perhaps, one of those people? I have a simple solution to offer. You must take responsibility for where your life is and where you want to be. I am a firm believer that if someone else can do it, doesn’t it mean that you can too? There are millions of people who achieved their dreams, similar to or different from yours. And many of them came from nothing or worse situation than you are in right now.
So never tell me you can’t. I say it to my students, clients, staff, and friends all the time “I don’t believe in could have, should have, would have. I believe in can, will, achieve…” and I am not accepting anything else. At the end of the day, you owe it to yourself.
Stop and think about it. Wouldn’t you want your best friend to achieve their dreams? Would you support them on their way up to success? Unless you are a bad friend, I think the answer is obvious. Then why do you wish the best for your best friend, but think that you deserve to stay where you are, complain, settle for less and never get what you deserve? You have to understand this to be able to motivate others.
Treat yourself the way you want to be treated
As the saying goes, “Treat others the way you want to be treated”. To me it is also logical to say, “Treat yourself the way you want to be treated”. Do not give the power to the voice that is constantly telling you that you can’t. The voice that complains. Blames others. Tells you that you are not worthy or undeserving. It is solely up to you to take the power away from that voice and take action. Once again, you owe it to yourself.
Grab a Hold of Something You Love
I get it, there are days when you are feeling low, without energy or motivation to do anything. In that case, grab a hold of something you love. For example, for me it is teaching, spending time with my family and my girlfriend. “What if a person is lonely and depressed and doesn’t love anything or anyone?” you may ask. I’ll say they should stop lying to themselves. There is always something that lights up your eyes and makes you happy, some of us just don’t want to admit it. Now, if what you love is psychopath killing, of course I have to make a disclaimer here – this is not what I mean or encourage! Let’s not go to the extremes.
What I mean is helping someone with something. Giving back to the community. Or maybe even finding the courage to do something you have always wanted to do – take that dance class, apply for that job or travel around the world. It will bring you fulfillment and you’ll find it easier to stay motivated or find your motivation again.
As I said, it’s easy to complain, do nothing and blame others for your failures. However, I challenge you to have a positive outlook, keep going and take action. Please contact me if you require a motivational speaker for your event or a life coach to help you deal with obstacles and succeed.